Here is an example of what to expect from my new book,

Escape for Mothers of Prisoners

When you feel scorn, read . . .

Love the Scorner

“But I say unto to you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which spitefully use you, and persecute you” (Matthew 5: 44 KJV).

Mothers are angels sent from God entrusted with the care of His children. They have been given special qualities such as love, understanding, kindness, and care to guarantee that they do an excellent job. When their children are successful, they are called good mothers, but when their children are not, mothers are often ridiculed and scorned.

When my child was sentenced to jail, he literally lost his name. Instead of being called by his name, he was referred to as Mrs. Davis’s child. I felt that I was defined by my child’s actions and ridiculed through the persuasive technique called association. Calling me the mother of a troublesome child was saying to the world that I too was bad. Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that I wanted to disassociate from my child. What I am saying is that we mothers should be recognized because of our accomplishments – not by our children’s short comings or personal achievements. Too often, doing so will present an eschewed picture of the child or of the mother.

People often mask their shortcoming by ridiculing some fault in others. Really, if we uncover the mask of those who belittle us, we will find that they are hurting and have many more problems than we ever had. Because this is true, we should always take the higher road. What do I mean by that? Instead of fighting back or degrading ourselves by retaliating with sarcastic remarks, we should pray for those who seem to find pleasure in pointing out our faults. In other words, love the scorner.

What good is there in praying for enemies or loving the scorner? Praying for those who spitefully use you reflects that you understand their masked feeling and that you love them. Moreover, when you love your enemies, you prove your love for God and show the world a view of God’s perfect love which rains on both the just and the unjust. In the end, because you love those who hate you, you are rewarded greatly.

Prayer: Heavenly Father give us the strength to ignore the scorn and ridicule of others. Help us to always take the higher road and love both our friends and our enemies so that we may be a living example of your perfect love to the world. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.


When you’re a victim of scorner’s hate,
Because of what your child has done,
Hold your head high and don’t you frown
Nor stoop to low levels on the ground.

Pray for your enemies and all of those
Who dare point you out in hate.
Rest assured that they may feel
What you feel some later date.


  1. You have so eloquently put in words the pain and subsequent resolve, within, of so many parents that find themselves in the same place you are today. There is never a place for scorn or righteous indignation for we may very well be in the same place tomorrow. Our children are “our” no matter what and when we own that I believe that’s God’s instruction to us of how it should be done and he will see us through it all. May God Bless you and your child !!

    Evedna Peters Mangrum

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